On a talk show, a psychologist who has studied happiness for many years shared an interesting insight: “Happiness is not about intensity, but frequency.” These days, an increasing number of studies echo this idea. It’s not about one grand moment of joy. Rather, it’s the small impressions and acts of kindness we encounter throughout the day that come together to create a lasting sense of happiness. Expecting a big, dramatic moment of happiness can often lead us to compare ourselves to others and feel discouraged. We need to learn to find joy in the small, everyday moments —and to truly feel it when it comes. I, too, sometimes get overwhelmed by negative thoughts and emotions. On those days, I try to give myself a break—whether it’s a nap or a delicious cup of coffee. I might tidy up a corner of the house or clean something thoroughly, completing a small task that gives me a sense of accomplishment. As I grow older, I’ve come to realize that nothing in life is gu...